We're trading silent nights for sleep walking, messy diapers, and squeaky toys. Yup, we're going to be parents! While I may have tried hiding my growing bump during the majority of the first two trimesters, we've reached week 39 and there's no denying our family is growing. But this, of course, is not new news! In fact, if you were one of the lucky ones to have been by my side prior to IVs and finally daily medication, you knew from the endless vomiting, the turning down of food (I do NOT turn down food) and the increased naps. Yup, from the very beginning, it's been obvious. But the idea of us being parents, apparently wasn't.
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Once we made the announcement the questions came flooding in as to whether or not it was planned. Oh, here we go again. Let me be frank. Those who may be sensitive to blunt honesty, please stop reading now. No, really, stop reading if you're going to be offended.
Yes, this child was planned. My husband and I are no longer young enough to feign ignorance or extreme naivety. At this age, knowing what we know about the birds and bees, how could we ever say she was not (and keep a straight face)? Yes, she was very much planned. Was it part of our plan to tell our friends, family and complete strangers when we would start trying? Well, no, but bless your heart for thinking we would.
So now that some of you are upset with my honesty (honesty is afterall the best policy, though not always a welcomed one), let me also share this: stop asking. Stop asking people if the pregnancy is planned. Frankly, it is not proper to ask, nor is it appropriate. In the rare chance that you happen to ask the one mother who happened to be the 1 in 100 to get pregnant while using a form of birth control, chances are she's not going to be overly excited to share that their child is indeed unplanned. Let's face it, when you hear the words "We didn't plan to have a baby", you immediately think "and yet, there you are, all pregnant and bringing a child into the world you didn't even want". And THAT is just ignorant.
